Anonymous asked:

As a lesbian, I do not care at all about bisexual girls feeling left out or judged in the LGBTQ community. I know that's horrible, especially since my girlfriend is bi, but I find it very revolting when I think about making love with someone that loves taking dick. I fell for my girlfriend without knowing she likes guys and girls. I don't purposefully date bisexual girls and I don't think it's wrong to say that.

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last-snowfall:

star-anise:

annekewrites:

socialworkgradstudents:

1-800-hair-nest:

amazingatheist:

sc0uttt:

fatpinkmyrishswamp:

sc0uttt:

the-unfeminine-aesthetic:

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I really hope your girlfriend realizes she’s dating a pathetic waste of a human being and finds someone infinitely better. 

A lot of lesbians are turned off by the idea of their gf having sex with men. Why is that such a bad thing? Why is it so wrong to only like women who like other women? I think the anon who asked this should be honest with her gf and break up with her though if it’s that much of a turn off. 

At first I wasn’t going to reply to comments like these but now that I’ve had a couple of beers the idea of repeatedly hitting my head against a brick wall seems more enjoyable so here we go.

I have a problem with lesbians who claim that they have a “preference” towards dating other lesbians over bisexuals. I understand having a preference, I personally have a preference for girls who are my height or taller than me.  However, does this preference make me view my own voice, safety, and representation in my community as superior and of more importance than those I do not have a preference for? Nope. That’s why this anon (and unfortunately other like minded individuals)  don’t have a “preference” they are biphobic and overall prejudicial assholes.

If you’re not comfortable dating bisexual people because you feel they will ultimately leave you for the opposite sex or (insert other stereotypical view of bisexuals) you don’t have a preference, you are biphobic, and have some huge insecurities that you should probably deal with before you enter a relationship.

If you’re a lesbian and do not feel comfortable dating a woman who is also attracted to individuals with dicks because you find it “icky” or “gross”, it must blow your mind when you find out your partner likes watermelon and you don’t. How do you even move forward from there? Is the relationship just doomed? And yes it is the same thing. Those individuals are judging someone based on something they cannot control.

Prejudice and phobia inside the queer community is something I will never understand and is absolutely infuriating. 

Prejudice and phobia in any community makes no sense.

This is really upsetting and I’ll tell you why.

A lot of this is about respect. If you have a partner whose sexuality you can’t respect or, at bare minimum, even accept, you should not be with that person. I understand that some people don’t like penetration or aren’t attracted to people with penises, but if you truly respected your partner, you would be comfortable with them regardless of their sexual history and orientation. Their preferences have nothing to do with you (outside of the fact that you’re both attracted to women), and what matters is that they care about and are with you now.

Anonymous, you need to sit down and do some soul searching. You need to consider what about simply knowing this about your partner feels so wrong to you, and why. Think about it practically: Are you concerned your partner will leave you for someone else? Does knowing this make you feel your partner is somehow dirty or tainted? Do you think it means your partner will never fully commit to you? Why is your partner’s orientation and sexual history so important and upsetting to you? Consider the assumptions you’re making about bisexuality and those who are bisexual.

You also need to have a talk with your partner. You need to tell them how you feel and why you think you feel that way. Then you and your partner need to decide if you can continue your relationship. You should not be with someone you can’t accept, and your partner should not have to be with someone who really feels that way (nor should they be kept in the dark about this!).

This is biphobia at its most basic. I understand you have your own preferences, but you have no right to negatively judge someone for theirs, especially someone you’ve entered a relationship with.

This thought process also raises a bunch of other questions: What about trans or non-binary people? People with penises who are not straight or cisgendered? Would you feel the same if your partner had been with a transgender woman who had a penis? (Because that’d also be transphobic.) And what about sex play using toys or fingers? Obviously lots of people don’t enjoy penetration, but would it be better or different if your partner had only been penetrated by toys? Why?

Anonymous, you need to come clean to your partner and seriously rethink your feelings towards bisexuality.

Yo if a dude was all, I won’t fuck that girl cause she once fucked somebody I think is gross, we’d call that shit misogyny.

The idea that a penis can somehow dramatically corrupt or alter the body of a woman is straight up goddamn patriarchy-lovin misogyny, if you add in “but it’s about bisexuality” then fine you’re also biphobic, way to multitask your policing of female sexuality, very talented work

^^^^^ THIS.  THANK YOU.

Lesbian biphobia has so many shades of virginity fetishization and slut-shaming.  “Now that you, fair woman, have been RAVISHED by a MAN, you are icky and impure and gross.”  And it also somehow makes male/female sex seem more important than female/female sex?  “If she’s only been with women, she’ll be content to stay with women; but if she’s been with a man, she’ll always be tempted to dump her girlfriend and stray back to men.”

It manages to be misandric (men are so evil they taint everything they touch), patriarchal (men are so powerful they permanently alter everything they touch) AND misogynistic (women are polluted by the sex they have) ALL AT ONCE.

That takes talent. The bad kind.

"Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention, when ten other people are asking for it. Intimacy is the person always in the back of your mind, no matter how distracted you are."
- Unknown (via blackbruise)

(Source: queerkaitlin, via missprice12)

sixpenceee:

Another way to present the 9 types of intelligence as exemplified by my How Do We Measure Intelligence post.

The basic idea is that different people are good at different things. These 9 probably don’t cover the wide range of smarts we all possess, but it’s a start.

As Albert Einstein said, ”Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

(via moniquill)

Hey, you, reading this rn. Go tell someone why they matter to you. Do it right this second. Because seriously now that I’m moving away people keep coming out of the woodwork telling me why they’ll miss me. Some of them it’s probably a “oh you’re leaving so I feel obligated to say you’ll be missed” but then last night multiple glasses of apple-pie moonshine deep people are hugging me and crying and giving me these weird specific examples of why I mattered here and why they will miss me and it was so lovely but oh my fuck like any of this info would have meant a lot to hear over the last few years. Don’t wait until people leave like idk someone you’re close to and love, someone you respect but never talk to I don’t care, just find someone and tell them why they matter, just because.

MVP jammer of my last very last SCAR bout. Jammed the last jam of the game on a power jam while the Dolls chanted my name. Crying forever. The hardest part about leaving PA for sure.

MVP jammer of my last very last SCAR bout. Jammed the last jam of the game on a power jam while the Dolls chanted my name. Crying forever. The hardest part about leaving PA for sure.

Getting ready to play my last Dolls’ bout and it just hit me that in the same week I lost the grandfather who helped raise me, left my job of four years, broke up with my girlfriend, had complicated feelings about my ex bf, am playing my last derby bout with my league of two years, and am moving 300+ miles away from where I’ve been for more than four years now. I haven’t thought about or processed any of it yet so it’s going to be really rough when it hits me. Probably sometime during my 8 hour drive tomorrow.

So Penny is doing fairy card readings and mine was really neat idk. She did the three card pick and asked me to concentrate on a question, and being that I just, you know, up and left a steady job without any real plan so I could move home and be with my family rn I questioned if I was on the path with my decisions because idk what to do with myself.

So my “past” card was upside down to Penny and it was the intuition card, so she basically said that it meant I haven’t been trusting my gut enough even though I’m being guided the right way and need to trust it.

My “present” card was family harmony so she said it means my family is healing and I need to say prayers for each f them and concentrate on why those relationships are important, which is absolutely what I’ve been doing this week.

My “future” card was creative expression and she said it was encouraging me to channel my emotions into creative expressions such as drawing or writing. And, being jobless, my plan for going home until I’m hired somewhere was to work on my creative writing and my shirt stories and all the other stuff I’ve been neglecting over the last few years if journalism I’ve been doing.

So yeah. Idk. It all seemed really relevant and was kind of reassuring.

socialjusticekoolaid:

CNN has obtained a video, taken shortly after Michael Brown was shot, that shows a contractor who had been working near the shooting site describing the incident in a manner that matches other eyewitness testimony—raising his arms and shouting “man, he was going like this,” as if to suggest that Brown had adopted a posture of surrender before he died.

Two contractors are shown in the video, and both have spoken to CNN; one also spoke previously to the St. Louis Post-Dispatch and one to Fox affiliate KTVI. The individual who is shouting and raising his arms in in the video told CNN that “the cop didn’t say get on the ground. He just kept shooting.” The other said that he saw officer Darren Wilson “chasing” Brown, that Wilson fired a shot at Brown while Brown’s back was turned, and that Brown raised his hands before he died, though it’s not clear at what point the witness saw Brown’s hands raised. (For what it’s worth, it seems like the worker who spoke to KTVI is the one wearing a pink shirt in the video and that the worker who spoke to the Post-Dispatch is wearing a green shirt.)

The CNN account notes that the workers are not from Ferguson and did not know the Brown family—a detail that could increase their perceived objectivity vis a vis witnesses from Brown’s neighborhood.

33 Days since Mike Brown’s murder, and his killer, Darren Wilson, is still a free man. How much more evidence is needed to make a fucking arrest?!  #farfromover #staywoke #ArrestDarrenWilson 

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